tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18171692.post5325811398686626670..comments2023-10-03T12:20:53.726-04:00Comments on ¡Cecilieaux!: On Misanthropy and FriendshipCecilio Moraleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05283375962527765787noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18171692.post-77913576498051469232007-06-06T12:59:00.000-04:002007-06-06T12:59:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18171692.post-75704916762588047672007-06-06T10:37:00.000-04:002007-06-06T10:37:00.000-04:00I hate to keep pounding on American culture... (Bu...I hate to keep pounding on American culture... (But I do anyway). Most people are good. I also believe people get too caught up in "stuff" to remember how important friends really are. Friendship, like anything else, takes time, effort and energy. When you put the aacquisition of friends in the same category as market activity, all those things go out the window. Again it's expedience, the concern that one might give more than take, score-keeping and a linear concept of reciprocity. <BR/><BR/>I've spent much time exactly where you are describing. Barren. I know the reason why that occurred and had to make a lot of adjustments. <BR/><BR/>My belief is that life itself is an uneven flow. Getting through it is much easier with friends who understand that. <BR/><BR/><BR/>Peace, <BR/><BR/>~Chanithailandchanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10171731740204067889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18171692.post-26315622930986177892007-06-06T05:17:00.000-04:002007-06-06T05:17:00.000-04:00As anne says, such friendships, although rare, can...As anne says, such friendships, although rare, can exist; my mother remained close frinds with an old schoolfriend through adolescence, emigration, professional advancement and even entry into a religious order (the friend, that is!).<BR/>I have one friend from college days, and although we live in different cities and have many different aspects we do not share, on such times as we do meet it is as if the time apart was as nothing. The friendship does not depend on sharing a belief, but on accepting that something *is* the belief of the other. It is a total acceptance without conditions.<BR/>I do not know whether people are capable of forming such friendships after some critical age or stage of development; as we age, it becomes easier to "write people off" without seeking relationship - they may be decent people, but we cannot imagine a close friendship! Perhaps we raise our standards, and are more able to accept life without friends if need be!Joanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12445957269963035576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18171692.post-32739463861236186982007-06-05T23:02:00.000-04:002007-06-05T23:02:00.000-04:00I think most friendships are ephemeral, here today...I think most friendships are ephemeral, here today and gone tomorrow simply because our society is so mobile. And usually, where ordinary friendship leaves off a coupling or marriage more than fills the void. <BR/><BR/>In my twenty-six years at one place of employment the face of personnel changed in fifteen minute increments and every few months would bring a new set of interactive circumstances for employees. Those friendships filled a niche and as such they were perfect. Personal agendas or whatever self-serving purposes that may have been encountered are long forgotten, the hundreds met and known are an old treasure. That was just one part of my life. <BR/><BR/>As much as we associate with friends, the real friendships so many of us long for are rare. My father had a 70+ year friendship with one man, something I can’t imagine for myself. Then there are the friendships among family wherein even there “innards” are unknown as we all have our own edens.<BR/><BR/>Perhaps friendship is recognition of seeing something of ourselves in another so when the counterpart does live and act independently or contrary to that particular self, it is just a matter of acceptance of the whole person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com