tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18171692.post2695272649984568698..comments2023-10-03T12:20:53.726-04:00Comments on ¡Cecilieaux!: Sex as a LanguageCecilio Moraleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05283375962527765787noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18171692.post-5898747442805244122007-05-30T11:46:00.000-04:002007-05-30T11:46:00.000-04:00You answered your own question. "Sex should be an ...You answered your own question. "Sex should be an expression of.....trust in one another". In any relationship where there is closeness, some degree of physical, emotional vulnerability, one has to feel that there is a level of commitment. I might fight with my best friend or brother but I can do that because I trust that we are committed to each other, e.i. they are not going to abandon me and they will show up in a moment of need. When one has multiple relationships of the type you are describing (which are unlikely to happen if one is not a lier), it opens wide the possibility of abandonment which is devastating to most healthy people. There is something in humans, as well as many animal species, that exact a level of committment i.e. some guarantee that trust won't be violated in order to have a caring relationship, sex or no. <BR/>To love one must trust. To trust one needs to have some level of committment, attachment, or the guarantee that everything one is won't be cast off like an old shoe. Maybe you or some of your corresponents do not need commitment or trust but I think most people do. You will be hard pressed to find someone who can tolerate loving another under your conditions. Sociopaths play at this but are incapable of real love and committment. Have you never suffered when you were abandoned? Do you have time for several really close, loving relationships that offer support and help in many ways, that provide care in sickness or be a companion at the end of the day, someone to cry or be happy for<BR/>you, to love your children?<BR/>Mothers and lovers, friends and brothers are often a pain but, for me, they are essntial. And sex w/o love is either exploitation, masterbation, relief from boredom, or someone to warm up the bed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18171692.post-87656297831652720522007-05-30T10:56:00.000-04:002007-05-30T10:56:00.000-04:00You make good points. I believe I mainly agree.The...You make good points. I believe I mainly agree.<BR/><BR/>The theoretical---that we agree on---is, however, a far cry from the actual.<BR/><BR/>My point has nothing to do with quantity or quality. Some languages have many words for one thing---like Inuits and snow---while others only have one.<BR/><BR/>My point has to do with what you said here: Sex should be an expression of equality, of similarity or complementary polarity, of abandonment and trust in another. It is often an instrument of oppression, a stand-in for power, a soft-touch leash.Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18171692.post-50602788599278236062007-05-30T09:50:00.000-04:002007-05-30T09:50:00.000-04:00It has changed from deep, substantial conversation...It has changed from deep, substantial conversation to casual small talk. <BR/><BR/><BR/>~Chanithailandchanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10171731740204067889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18171692.post-11615720098852310302007-05-30T09:12:00.000-04:002007-05-30T09:12:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com